Break the Negative Feedback Cycle

By Daniel Franklin, Ph.D

Most children with Language-Based Learning Disabilities (LBLDs) and other learning challenges are caught in an infinite loop of negativity—from peers, teachers, and even family members. Fortunately, you can inject positivity into your child’s life, helping them develop a positive self-image. Here are some guidelines that should help:  

  • Identify people who promote a positive self-image for your child. Find ways to incorporate these people into your child’s life. They can be relatives, family friends, an art or music teacher, or a sports coach. 
  • At the same time, move away from individuals who diminish your child’s self-image. It might not always be obvious, but there could be some people whose interactions with your child result in elevated anxiety, low self-esteem, and negative self-image. 
  • Collaborate with others to plan a positive learning experience for your child. Help your child’s teachers and school administrators develop a positive mindset about your child by demonstrating the effort you and your child are making. 
  • Convene a meeting with your child’s teachers. At the meeting, share your observations about your child’s experiences and ask what they’ve observed. Work together to set priorities for supporting your child at home and at school. Create a plan that takes into account your child’s unique learning, social, and emotional needs. Collectively determine who and when you will meet again to assess progress and adjust support. 
  • If your relationship with your child’s teacher has been strained, identify another individual at the school who can help you advocate for your child. Bring your concerns to the attention of this individual. Once you feel that you have a good relationship with this person, seek their advice on how to best reach out to the teacher or administration.

This post is excerpted from Helping Your Child with Language-Based Learning Disabilities (Strategies to Succeed in School and Life with Dyscalculia, Dyslexia, ADHD, and Auditory Processing Disorder), by Daniel Franklin, PhD; published by New Harbinger Publications (2018). Available at Amazon through this link: Helping Your Child with Language-Based Learning Disabilities. Dr. Franklin is a Board Certified Educational Therapist and the founder of Franklin Educational Services. 

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