Before the IEP Meeting: 6 Tips for Parents

By Eve Kessler, Esq.


Despite school closures the Department of Education expects IEPs to continue • As a key member of your child’s IEP team, your input is vital to the process • Before the meeting, take the time to prepare your thoughts and questions to ensure the optimal outcome for your child

Experts, advocates, and other parents agree that preparing for the IEP meeting is the key to building a plan that will ensure your child’s success. Knowledge of your child, the school system, and federal and state laws and regulations will empower you to become the advocate your child deserves. So prepare, prepare, and prepare more, using these tips to guide you:

  1. Write a list of issues that you feel are important. Try to resolve any questions or concerns before the meeting so the time you’re with the team can be used productively to agree on a plan. Prior discussion will eliminate surprises at this meeting.
  2. Prepare your own questions and items to address. Ask for a blank copy of the IEP form showing the components and prepare questions you would like to discuss during the meeting.
  3. To be an informed participant in the process request that the school provide you with the evaluations and proposed goals, objectives, and placement recommendations prior to the meeting.
  4. Written notice of the IEP meeting will include a list of participants. Review the list to make sure that all necessary school and outside personnel will be there. Notify the school if you intend to include someone from outside the school (e.g., a friend, relative, advocate, or outside evaluator). It may be someone who has knowledge of your child and his needs, or someone just to take notes while you listen.
  5. If this is your first IEP meeting, talk to other parents who have been through this to learn from their experiences. You may also find it useful to connect with support groups online or through social media.
  6. Know your child. Prepare a sample parent vision statement that describes your child. Provide a list of her strengths, challenges, preferences, learning styles, and what she needs to succeed across curricula and environments. Offer samples of her work and recent evaluations done outside of school. Consider including your child if appropriate.

Adapted from Bringing Knowledge to the Table, published by SPED*NET Wilton (CT) and available free on line at

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