Applying to college is a challenging and stressful time for both students and their families. With multiple deadlines, essays, and decisions to be made, parents play a vital role in helping their children navigate this demanding process. As a college adviser, Deena Maerowitz likens this experience to the biggest transition since the birth or adoption of a child. Following are guidelines to help you support your child during the college application process and reduce stress for everyone involved.

1. Understand the college application process. For you to provide effective support, it’s essential that you understand the college application process. Familiarize yourself with the Common Application, deadlines, essays, letters of recommendation, and standardized tests like the SAT or ACT. By having this knowledge, you’ll be better equipped to guide your child through each step and answer any questions they might have.

2. Identify sources of stress. Students face numerous stressors during the college application process, including academic expectations, financial concerns, and the uncertainty of their future. Maerowitz describes this period as being “in limbo,” with parents and teenagers alike feeling cranky and uncomfortable. By recognizing these stressors, parents can better empathize with their children and provide targeted support to help alleviate pressure.

3. Offer emotional support. Listening to your child’s concerns and fears without judgment can be incredibly reassuring. Offer a safe space for open communication and remind them that their self-worth is not solely determined by college acceptances. As Maerowitz emphasizes, “A parent’s role is to be supportive, understanding, and encouraging.”

4. Encourage Time Management. Time management is crucial during the college application process. Help your child break down tasks into manageable steps and set realistic goals for completing each one. This can reduce stress and ensure they stay on track.

5. Stay organized. Help your child create a calendar to track deadlines and prioritize tasks. By managing the timeline effectively, students can avoid last-minute stress and ensure that all application components are completed on time.

6. Assist with college research. Research colleges together to find the best fit for your child, considering factors such as location, size, academic programs, and extracurricular opportunities. Encourage them to explore a range of options, including safety, match, and reach schools.

7. Help with Financial Aid and Scholarships. Financial concerns can be a significant source of stress. Assist your child in researching and applying for financial aid, scholarships, and grants to alleviate some of the financial pressure.

By offering emotional support, staying organized, and providing practical assistance, you can help make the college application process less stressful and more manageable for your child. Your involvement and understanding can set your child up for success, not only during the application process but also as they embark on their college journey.

This post was adapted from The Bertram Group blog,  How Parents Can Support Their Child Druing the College Application Process. Deena Maerowitz works with students ranging from freshmen to seniors and is an expert in both undergraduate and graduate education. She is widely published and sought-after as a speaker on college planning. She can be reached at deena@thebertramgroup.com.

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